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Looking across all 10 data points, the most striking pattern is the asymmetry: Alex carries more of the mood load (Mild depression + Moderate anxiety) while Jordan is relatively clear (Minimal + Mild). This isn't uncommon — couples often develop complementary roles around emotional processing. The risk is that Alex's load becomes invisible because Jordan's baseline is so different.

Your attachment styles amplify this: Alex's anxious-preoccupied pattern means they're likely monitoring Jordan's emotional availability closely, while Jordan's secure style means they may not notice the monitoring happening. This creates a silent asymmetry — Alex is working harder to track the relationship's emotional temperature, while Jordan assumes things are fine because they feel fine.

The Big Five divergence reinforces this: Alex is higher in Extraversion and lower in Emotional Stability, meaning they process out loud and feel more intensely. Jordan is higher in Agreeableness and Stability — a steadying presence, but potentially one that under-registers distress signals from Alex. The satisfaction gap (24 vs 31) is the downstream evidence: Alex is experiencing friction that Jordan genuinely doesn't see yet.